Have you ever noticed yourself thinking this sentence?
This is a belief many of us share when we are healing our relationship wounds.
If you catch yourself thinking “that you will be happy when X happens”, you set yourself up for a life of longing. This is in fact a limiting belief that keeps us stuck.
First answer this: How much has it cost you to believe that you will be happy when you will find the one?
How many relationships where sorted as not good enough because of it?
To how many dates you didn’t go, because it didn’t feel like the other person was the one?
How many people you find attracting, whilst believing this? How long have you tried to find the one?
Take it in. It might be unbearable to notice how much impact this belief has had on your life. Yet it is going to be your motivator to change it.
Now that you know the impact, you can choose to take action towards finding a helpful belief.
Let’s start the process by tapping into your deep knowing (intuition) and ask openly:
Is this belief actually true?
Your knowing probably answered ‘no’, because it knows that you can be happy, fulfilled and loved as you are and there is more than one person available to you.
That is a helpful belief right there.
Mindset change is something that we need to repeat to build a new neural pathway towards the outcome we want. That’s why coaching is so powerful: it accesses the parts of our mind that find solutions and build new connections in our mind, which help us to realise that we can achieve and receive what we want.
You see a person who has limiting beliefs about romantic relationships is very quick to notice all that is not going well and find coping mechanisms to explain the reality.
Whilst a person who works on changing their beliefs and create new helpful ones expands their mind to notice other possibilities. They start to see what could go well, they get a more positive outlook on their options and feel more secure in their own ability to choose a good partner.
In fact my clients feel more fulfilled with themselves as they are and don’t need to control so much to find the love they seek. They start to give themselves the love they need and become much more attractive, especially to others who are compatible with them.
Us being truthfully ourselves makes us shine and the persons who seek what we are can notice us with ease.
So is it time to stop waiting for someone else to make you happy? Take the power back and become effortlessly attractive to the right ones?
Message me “LOVE” to tarotmysteriestribe@gmail.com and find out how Relationship Coaching can help you.
